Homeschooling

I was just talking to a friend who told me she had just had a bad parenting moment.
I shared with her that I have had many myself. A time when I had yelled or said something cruel or lost my temper or just practiced plain bad parenting. I always feel badly afterwards and say sorry- but I also take a look at what part I played in a bad episode.
It does not good to say- they pushed my buttons, they made me do it, etc.
How may times have a seen a mom at a Wal-Mart with a toddler in the shopping cart whining they wanted to go home.. then =mom gives kids a pack of M&M’s to quite them and ten minutes later they are screaming at a crying child or 3 year old is in full blown tantrum. If you rewind you can see cues- they whined, they told mom they wanted to go home and then they got fed sugar and caffeine while mom got even more irritated. The they child gets yelled at for having tantrum or “misbehaving” Its called setting a child for failure.
A parent sets up the problem, Child tired or up late, not having eaten recently, maybe getting but sick, bored from shopping or being in car seat all day, etc.
Or maybe mom is over tired, hungry and stressed. Whatever the scenario- it is parents fault0 so child gets yelled at for a situation that is out of the control.
If I am tired and stressed and yell at my husband is it because he is a jerk or is he picking up the tab for my being tired and stressed? Something to think about next time you threaten to ground or punish your child.